Refresh: Option B – When Life Doesn’t Run to Plan
Resentfully lamenting that our life dream has not come true can blind us to the new opportunities setbacks sometimes birth. Though rarely chosen, Option B can turn out to be better than option A. This post originally appeared in Feb 2022, and I am struck by how relevant it remains… Option B: When Life Doesn’t Run to Plan In their very readable book, Option B, Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant explore how to build resilience and find joy when option A for our life is no longer available. For Sheryl Sandberg it started when she discovered her husband Dave collapsed on the gym floor...
Read MoreNature, Nurture; Genes or Environment; Free Will or Predestination?
It was my very first assignment at University. The topic: “Discuss the nature, nurture controversy.” It was an interesting start to my academic career. My opening effort was awarded a modest 68%, my lecturer accusing me of mild bias, though not clarifying towards which side. My later efforts were better rewarded, but I still remember this opening gambit with some affection, perhaps because the question is as unanswerable now as it was back in 1975 – oh my goodness yes, it was 50 years ago! It doesn’t really matter if your field is medicine, genetics, politics, ethics,...
Read MoreRefresh: From Platforms to Altars – Rediscovering Servant Leadership
The importance of servant leadership can’t be overstated. In a world where the focus is on the size of our platform, this post from April 2022 reminds us that it’s the altar we serve from that actually matters. If you want to dive into the topic more, have a listen to the discussion on “The Leader as Servant” on the Stirrers and Saints Podcast. From Platforms to Altars: Rediscovering Servant Leadership You know as well as I do that the list of fallen Christian leaders is growing at an alarming rate. Many have been high fliers, leaders who were widely lauded and...
Read MoreBecause feelings don’t happen to us, but for us…
My regular readers will know how often my blog posts are sparked by throw away comments from podcasts I have listened to that don’t necessarily have much to do with what the podcast was about, but do reflect how my mind worked after hearing the comment. This is one of those posts. And the comment? “Feelings don’t happen to us, but for us.” I won’t cite the podcast, as it really wasn’t about that – or I don’t think it was, as my brain had already raced away following the idea. Feelings get a mixed rap in the Christian tradition. I remember as a...
Read MoreRefresh: Thinking about Fixed and Growth Mindsets
Much has been written on growth and fixed mindsets. I like this post because it affirms the value of a growth mindset, while adding some important qualifiers that are sometimes overlooked. It was first published on the blog in May 2022. Thinking about Fixed and Growth Mindsets While Carol Dweck’s 2007 book Mindset is no longer new, it continues to spark rich conversations about the difference between fixed and growth mindsets. The basic thesis is simple: Some people approach life with a fixed mindset, assuming that they are born with certain talents and abilities and that relatively...
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