Posts Tagged "deep listening"

Refresh: Arguing for the Sake of Heaven – Why we need Curious Conversations

Posted by on Feb 19, 2025 in Blog | 0 comments

Today’s Refresh was originally posted in May 2021, and if anything is more relevant today than when it first appeared. I especially love the Jonathan Sacks insight that it is better to lose an argument, for when we do, we gain new knowledge, whereas when we win an argument, we simply have an established view reinforced. It’s a refreshing take. Roll on the losses! Arguing for the Sake of Heaven: Why we need Curious Conversations I wonder if you, like me, are finding the polarising conversations taking place in the public square shrill, tiresome and destructive. We have lost the art of...

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Because Honesty is the Highest Form of Loyalty

Posted by on Dec 1, 2024 in Blog | 4 comments

It was a throw away comment in an Adam Grant podcast I was listening to at the gym. Remember, he said, “honesty is the highest form of loyalty.” Of course, just because someone says something doesn’t mean it’s true, but in this instance I thought it worth thinking about – and I guess this blog is part of that thinking process. I put the comment alongside another discussion I heard on The Rest is Politics podcast, where the ever interesting Alastair Campbell was speaking about the Shimon Peres solution. “What’s that” you ask? In 1985 US President...

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Hear, Help or Hug: 3 Ways to Respond

Posted by on Jun 23, 2024 in Blog | 1 comment

It was a slightly unexpected and somewhat abrupt question, but afterwards its wisdom struck me. I was chatting to a friend about a difficult thing that had happened and he simply asked: “So what would you like from me? To hear, to help or to hug?” It set me thinking about my instinctive response when people talk to me about something difficult. While I try to remember the importance of deep listening, I’m wired to swing into help mode. Tell me a problem, and I will quickly suggest 5 or 6 options that you can try. If you don’t like any of them, I’m usually able...

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From Deep Listening to Deep Seeing…

Posted by on May 12, 2024 in Blog | 0 comments

One fun thing about being part of a podcast is that it is only very loosely scripted and you find yourself saying things you don’t expect. While sometimes they are in the “I shouldn’t have said that” category, I’ve also had really pleasing moments when I’ve thought, “gosh, that was good. Did I really say that?” My recent Stirrers and Saints Podcast on “Mary – A Leader from the second chair” has one of those moments. Jen, Jon and I were talking about the importance of deep listening, and while totally agreeing with the value of...

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Asking Questions Like Jesus…

Posted by on Dec 3, 2023 in Blog | 4 comments

Don’t know if you were ever caught up in the WWJD quest – that’s “what would Jesus do” if the initials don’t immediately speak to you. It’s a good question, and it’s only possible to answer it if we look seriously at the WDJD query – what did Jesus do? When it comes to what Jesus did do, we know a few things for sure – he taught, he healed, he provoked, he forgave, he challenged. He lived, he died and he rose again. And so much more. Part of the so much more that doesn’t always get a look in is the way Jesus asked and answered...

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