Design, Discipline and Delight: The D’s that Drive Difference
You’ve probably heard that discipline is one of the most accurate predictors of long term success. And it is – especially if it is the resilient kind of discipline that accepts that life has its disappointments and lows, and that not everything runs to plan. Having the resilience and discipline to persevere during those times is crucial, and without them people give up too easily, and then wonder why their longed for dream does not materialise. How do we get this kind of discipline? Opinions vary. Many of them are of the “grit your teeth and stick it out” variety....
Read MoreRefresh: By Persevering…
Is there a difference between persistence and perseverance? This Refresh post from Oct 2023 says there is, and argues that it is not simply a niggle point. To persist is to keep going; to persevere is to keep going despite adversity. I thought it worth thinking about this again… What’s the greatest predictor of future success? While experts express a range of views, their answers usually include words like resilience, tenacity and perseverance. Those who persevere, reap the reward. Naturally there are limits to this. If you persist in doing the wrong thing, you will be persistently...
Read MoreRefresh: When You Can’t Unfriend
Most of us walk away from difficult people and complex situations, but sometimes the greatest joy and satisfaction is found when we persevere with difficulties and refuse to unfriend difficult people. This Refresh post from Nov 2022 reminds us that sometimes it’s best not to give up. Refresh: When You Can’t Unfriend I don’t know what your relationship with Facebook is like, but on the whole, mine is pretty good. It’s introduced me to over 2000 friends, the majority of whom I didn’t know before, and they often like or share my posts, introduce me to new concepts...
Read MoreRefresh: On Full Stops and Commas
This post from May 2022 is one of my favourites. It notes the difference between a full stop and a comma. The one signifies an end, the other, a brief pause. Confusing them can see us giving up prematurely – as I so nearly did with my writing. The post tells the story. BTW, while this 2022 post notes 6 published books, that number is now 7 (thanks to my 2024 book, Stirrers and Saints), and hopefully it will keep growing. Refresh: On Full Stops and Commas Let me start with a brag, and follow it with a confession. I won the English prize at school. True, that was not far off 50 years...
Read MoreRefresh: A Cold Dark Night on the Side of Everest – How Expectations Shape Outcomes
Todays Refresh has been one of the most frequent downloads since I first published it in 2022. I imagine its reminder that when we sign up for difficult things we should expect to find them – well, difficult, is timely. Expectations matter, and when we factor a healthy dose of realism into our equation, we are more likely to persevere and ultimately succeed. Refresh – A Cold Dark Night on the Side of Everest: How Expectations Shape Outcomes I recently enjoyed listening to psychologist Alia Crum speaking on the Hidden Brain podcast about reframing your reality. She recalled a...
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